Emotional Affair Or Friendship

In a marriage, what are the limits for friendship with a member of the opposite sex? Who sets these limits? What is the difference between a friendship and an emotional affair? Is an emotional affair wrong? Does an emotional affair help the marriage by letting a partner vent out all emotional frustration, which otherwise he/she would not have done with his/her spouse? Or does it kill the marriage?
What is an emotional affair? Most of us have friendships. Many of us are very close in some friendships. We share quite a lot in such friendships. But when one develops such a close friendship with one from the opposite sex, it can be termed as an emotional affair. Sharing intimate emotional details with someone of opposite sex is called an emotional affair. This the the common definition. It also includes the clause that you are keeping your partner unaware about the emotional bond you share with someone else. Does it hurt marriage? It hurts marriage if after knowing about the details shared, the spouse feels that mutual trust was violated. If the emotional affair becomes strong, it may so happen that one may begin sharing more emotional details with one's friend than with one's spouse. That hurts the spouse and may also lead to a break-up.
Why do people have emotional affair? It is being debated that emotional affair is purely emotional or it is begun because of physical attraction. Does one need a friend of opposite sex to share emotional details? Why not one of your own sex? And why does one feel uncomfortable with one's spouse about this bond? All pointers go in one direction - an emotional affair may be the way one wants to begin a physical relationship with another outside marriage. Otherwise if one want to have emotional sharing, or to vent out feelings, one can easily consult a psychiatrist and tell all to feel relieved and get advice. Or one can chose a friend of the same sex.
How to avoid an emotional affair? One who is involved in an emotional affair needs to ask ownself- is this only emotional? Why do I need this person to talk about everything? One must reflect. Talk it out with one's spouse. Let your head control your heart for a moment and think about the marriage and the bond.

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End Of Friendships

Nothing good may last forever. If we think that a good friendship will last forever, we may be wrong. Every friendship may end. Very few friendships survive. And they are lucky friendships. We develop many friends in our childhood, and go on our separate ways in high school. Most of the childhood friendships end at that stage, and new friendships are formed. Same pattern is repeated after college. We go in different directions to pursue different careers. The contact with friends is lost and slowly these friendships also end.

Friendship is like a river. It flows towards its destination and on the way it meets many interesting people. But relations between friends change with changing circumstances. Don't you think that the friendship undergoes a change if one of the friends gets married. The entry of a new person may bring irreversible changes in friendship. Similarly disagreement over issues may bring very old friendships to a sudden end. A friendship is formed because friends have common interests and opinions. Once they begin having different opinions, there are more of disagreements compared to agreements in the relationship. This sours the friendship.
There are some other factors that damage friendships.For example, friends sometimes have expectations. Relationships are not always totally selfless. If a friend fails to meet needs of another friend when required, it hurts the friendship badly. Imagine two friends, both beginning their career with same income. Say that after few years, one of them becomes much richer than the other. Will the friendship retain its old charm? It looks difficult.
Every relationship has its ups and downs. It is for us to think optimistically or be a pessimist.knowing well that every friendship may end one day.

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Friendship Day Reunion With Old Friends

The most memorable moment in life is when you meet old friends whom you had lost touch midway in the journey of life. You will be overwhelmed with the feeling of emotional detachment, realizing how much you have been missing him or her all these years. Having them around will remind you of all those golden moments that you spent together in the rain, amidst the morning mist or under the scorching sun. It will remind you of those golden moments of sharing lunch together and exchanging your friendship bands.



Friendship day is just around the corner and you can plan for a grand reunion and arrange for a rocking get together with all your old friends on Friendship Day 2007. Celebrate your reunion with enthusiasm full to the brink. Share all your emotions that you had stored for them for this long span of time. So just go ahead with your plan for celebrating a reunion on this Friendship Day and make the day an unforgettable episode of your life. All you need to do is gather all the contact details of your old friends and kick start the exciting venture.
Collect The Contact Details
This era of technology has made it a lot easier for you to reach out to your lost friends instantly with your plan. Take out some time from your leisure moments and sit with all your old notebooks, dairies and arrangers. Take out all the phone numbers, email addresses, and mailing address of all those golden people whose memories have been haunting you since years. Get the information noted down carefully on a piece of paper.
Contact Them
An amazing way to bring them closer once again after such a long span of time is to send them cute ecards through email wishing them all the good wishes and heart felt love. Remember that every good thing in life begins with love and hope. Always go for any of the free ecard sites. 123greetings.com is one of the most genuine sites that strike my mind at this moment. You can find wondrous assortment of free ecards – animated or non-animated, musical or non-musical that may prove to be the perfect choice for you to embark on such an exciting venture. Do not forget to write briefly about your plan.
You will be amazed to find that the majority of your friends have answered but do not feel depressed, when you find that someone's email ID does not exist. You can make a telephone call and strike him or her with a sudden wonder. Let them know about your plan and be sure that they cannot afford to loose the opportunity of having a great fun with old friends on this Friendship Day.
Pre-Friendship Day meeting
Arrange for a meeting with friends who stays nearby and who would want to take part in the meeting. This is the most vital part of the story. This get together is not for a regular party. Enjoy the day with a friendly meeting and planning for the reunion celebration on the Friendship Day. Share your thought about the celebration and together come up with a solid decision.
Let The Others Know
One more simple step is left yet. When everything has been finalized inform all other friends about the decision that has been taken in the meeting. Inform them about the venue, time and your plan. Now you are almost done.
Stay in touch with your friends and wait for the day to come. It is on the first Sunday of August and hence every single person is anticipated to join this grand reunion party. Keep yourself prepared before hand with your camera loaded and some extra film and a few dry cells.
If you want to surprise your friends on this Friendship Day by giving small gifts to each one of them start planning now and get them prepared, lest you do not make hast at the end and end up things stupidly. Budgeting is an essential part to be considered.

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Somebody Who Understands You

Do you have someone who can feel the pain in your eyes? Do you have someone who can understand the ache of your heart? Do you have someone who can understand your misery? Do you have someone who can understand your helplessness? Do you have someone who can wipe your tears? Do you have someone who will not ask you not to cry, but will give you a shoulder to cry upon? Do you have someone who waits for you? Do you have someone who keeps awake with you? Do you have someone who will talk to people on your behalf? Do you have someone who will feel the pain of your life? Do you have someone who knows that you don't want to live, but are forced to live? Do you have a true companion? Before we proceed further, let us find more about what is living, and why we need someone who understands us? Please view these screensavers - Friendship Connecting with people
I am not talking only about a wife or a husband or a friend or a companion? Anyone it can be. But do you have someone who understands you and who is with you always? If yes, you are a very lucky person. God has given you all the luck you wanted. Because getting a person like what I talked above is very difficult. You will rather find that during your time of hardships, pains and misery, you are alone. No one will understand your actions or motives. They will argue with you. They will suggest you. But they will not be with you. You will have to face your misery all alone and on that day, you will cry for someone who understands you.
You will not get that person. Your beating heart may stop with the pain. People will gather to bury you. But no one will help you live, when you wanted. That time you will probably thank death for getting you away from this world of loneliness.

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Friends and Lovers

Can friends be lovers? Can lovers be friends? Can I still befriend my "Ex"? Those are the questions that my favorite cousin threw me. Interesting questions, but I initially found myself dumbfounded. Probably because my thoughts were focused on family matters and motherhood that questions about friends and lovers are unexpected.
But then after contemplating the question, I can't help but smile. It brings back memories when my hubby and I were just friends and eventually became lovers. Falling in love with each other was really unexpected, but it just happened. It was like magic as we always say. But then, it also brings me back to the time when I was on that stage of uncertainty and fears. I also had that fear of losing a friend or should I say a lover and a friend if the relationship doesn't work.
I'm not an expert in the matters of the heart, but let me share my thoughts and realizations based on my experiences.
'Falling in love' with a friend is all but natural especially when you are in your teens. Of course, the more you associate with a person, the more you feel closer and the more that you long for the friend of yours to be always around. Every little kind act would mean a lot to you. The answer in the question "Can lovers be friends?" is obvious. Of course, you can. But you have to weigh things out first and carefully assess your feeling before moving into that level.
When I was younger, I have had hidden admiration and affection with some of my guy friends. There were even times when I thought I was falling in love with them, but I decided to keep that to myself and pretend that such feeling doesn't exist. Some of them courted me and some just treated me in a special way. Though the feelings are mutual then, I decided to ignore the feeling and remain just friends because I believe it was better that way.
'I would rather not have a boyfriend than to lose a good friend' was my philosophy in life then. For such a long time I lived by that principle. That principle was broken though when I entered into a relationship with my friend, now my husband, Rouel. I was hesitant and was full of doubts about its outcome. There were lots of trials along the way. It was actually like a roller-coaster ride, but our love and trust with each other prevailed.
Others may have a different story and a not-so-happy ending. It doesn't depend on the strength of your love alone though it is very important. There are other factors to be considered such as acceptance, timing, maturity, and fidelity.
Whether lovers can still be friends after the break-up depends a great deal on the cause of the break-up and the level of maturity of both parties. If it was a mutual decision and both of you just realized that you were simply not meant for each other, being friends again is not unlikely. You must also check your motives in befriending your Ex. Granted that you don't have a hidden agenda, you should not expect that you will be as close as before especially when one or both of you found another partner. The fact that you've been lovers will always haunt your present relationships.
There may be downsides in being friends and then lovers when the relationship failed, but I think it is still worth a try if you truly love each other, you're both matured to face all its consequences and you are both unattached. Talking from experience, it's great to have a husband and a friend rolled into one.
Adora C. Ganir
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7 Ways to His Heart - "How to Use Your Imagination to Keep Him Close"

Does religious guilt suppress women's sexuality? In the words of political analyst Debbie Taylor, "religious beliefs had little or no effect on a man's sexual pleasure, but could slice as powerfully as a circumcision knife into a woman's enjoyment, not to mention undermining with guilt and shame any pleasure she might otherwise experience."
Forgive me when I say it - because I really don't want you to know it, but I remember when the era of Flower Power was popular culture, and love was the catchword of the hour, and sex, the expression of sex, sensuality, frivolity, and playfulness were in vogue.
Men grew their hair long and adorned their bodies, highlighting a feminine side that they could explore because women were not yet thinking about their own freedom. Though they appropriated girl's pleasures, it was still a boy's party.
Today it's very different. Women are driven to desire, and are desired. They're open and ready to rekindle romance by taking their man on a magical mystery tour of the mind and body, having utilized every sense of her imagination.
Admittedly, there are some who say putting forth such energy to please a man isn't anything nearly so serious or important, and it should be appalling to those of us whom find that a healthy, sexy, romantic relationship is the source of life and the wings of romance, and of love.
There are several wonderful books out there, which can guide you down the right path to an active imagination for romance, but for now allow me to plague your thoughts with a few quick sexy sensual tips to use now.
1. Bring Out Your Inner Tomboy Perhaps you're like me - extremely feminine - wearing stockings and garters with stiletto high hill shoes, and your best dress when you go on a date, while making certain the make-up is flawlessly executed. Whether they admit it or not, men love this about women - being with an attractive woman is not only appealing to him but it reflects well on him. If you really want to keep him close, reveal your inner tomboy and muck in and out of the dirt while planting flowers, or get your hands dirty while helping him to change the oil in the car. He's sure to love it.
2. Seduce Him With a Surprise We all need some routine in our lives, as it helps us to meet all our responsibilities, but it's also important to show the man in your life, that being with you isn't dull and boring. Often time's women assume that the man has to provide the romantic surprises in the relationship. Turn the table and do something completely out of the ordinary, as it relates to you, and show up on your date or at his door with nothing beneath your jacket except fine silk stocking, platform heels and of course a sexy hip hugging colorful garter with bra to match.
3. Be the Author Of Change Be a chameleon and keep him entranced while deepening his interest. For example don't assume he doesn't notice little changes you make such as your hair color, or French tip nails versus red painted nails, believe me, men notice. They're just not good at mentioning it. Don't make the mistake of telling him about your changes before their done. Just do it! Your change will prick his curiosity while making suggestions to his subconscious, which by the way will convey that you're an interesting multi-changing woman of whom he'd like to keep hopefully keep close to.
4. Create Distance If you're in love that's great. But please remember no matter how much you love him, no man wants a leech. If you become a leech you'll suck the life right out of your relationship. Remember there's a difference between being alone and being lonely. It's wonderful to be a cozy loving couple, but too much of anything becomes overbearing. Allow some space, and time to miss each other. Do other things with your friends and allow him to do the same. Absence does make the heart grow fonder, and it sets the stage for new intimacy.
5. Diminish His Stress and Communicate More Lovingly We all fail at good communications when under stress. But men are notoriously bad at expressing their feelings (sorry fellas) when stressed from the job and or when faced with other problems, beyond their control. You can be an exceptional woman; by showing him he can feel good during that moment around you. The secret lies in your response or your reactions and no one knows your man better than you. That being said you know well when he's angry or stressed and clearly that wouldn't be the time to start in on him with 100 questions about some of his promises which are yet to be fulfilled, or worst gabble and complain about your stressful day. Remember neither of your ways are better than the other so create a eel-good environment for him and yourself and you'll lend greater strength to your bond and union as a couple.
6. Be Sexy, Sensual and Sentilating On my television show " Swing In the Kitchen" and in all my books, articles, newsletter, radio and television interviews I'm constantly talking about my theory on how food and cooking is definitely a way to build relationships, as well as to a man's heart - and sensuality is at the heart of it. Why don't you brand a sensual signature, and create an evening that is unique to you only. It can be that certain way you laugh, at his jokes, or that sexy thing you do after making love. With this idea you can actually create your own sound when he touches you in all the right places, believe me once he gets wise to that sensual then you do, it will drive him mad and he'll take pleasure in everything you both do together for each other. To seal the deal, create a meal that will put flames to your evening of passion, and let it be known that your meal is all about sex appeal.
7. Find a Special Place to Tune In Poetry and music have the power to move our hearts into heaven, or repel us to no end. Both can calm or excite us at any given moment. Of course we all have different taste in both music and poetry. But the secret is knowing how not to rub his face in your style of music if its different from yours. A good example would be if he enjoys listening to a certain song while he's in the shower, as it makes him feel good and energetic then play that when you desire a heart felt evening with him. In other words use the music he loves to help relive his day of stress and or when you're ready to make mad passionate love to him, just to show him how much he means to you. He may or may not be able to swiftly put his finger on it but believe me he will feel emotionally connected to you, and that girlfriend, is the goal of every woman alive. Be inspired and touch his heart.
Rone de Beauvoir is the author of It's Only Dinner: Dining for Love Romance & Relationships; Decadent Meals and Desserts: How to Conjure Up Love with Aphrodisiacs and several other books. She is a celebrity chef, television personality, professional speaker, international traveler, recording artist, filmmaker, caterer and philanthropist. Her diverse background has helped her to develop a passion for food and relationship building techniques, for which she provides as a consultant and coach to corporations, and individuals, and in seminars. Her experience living in 22 countries gives her a unique insight into the food traditions of exotic places and people.

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