Love – Improve Long Life

Love has been associated with life for many generations, with the common statement being that with love, life gets more meaning. However, is it possible to live longer because of love as well? This is something that some people seem to agree with.

It is not just the length of your life that is important. As has been said since time immemorial, love gives meaning to life. So, it means that a long life that is devoid of love may actually be worse off.

Complications of long life

There are many things that are recommended for having a long life, yet in the end, they may not seem to yield the desired results. For instance, you may take all the necessary precautions for healthy living and hardly suffer from any ailment but still die relatively young. There are a number of other factors that are completely out of your own life that actually affect it significantly.

When we speak about love, it is important to bear in mind the fact that there are different types of love. All the various types contribute towards the enrichment of your life, giving it more quality.

How can love make you have a long life?

There is no doubt that love improves the quality of life. But does it make it any longer? The simple answer is, yes, it does. Studies have shown that if you have something to live for, you are more likely to live longer than if you have nothing to look forward to. Given that love gives you hope, it will make you look forward to the next day with great expectation, enabling you to lengthen your days.

It does not matter much the kind of love you have. Whether you love your pet, are in great romantic relationship, love your child, or just a given cause, you will have more strength to overcome difficult circumstances. It has been scientifically proven that those who love have a higher chance of getting cured from various ailments than people who do not have some love.

With love on your side, you will be able to get over circumstances where the odds are stacked up against you. On the other hand, you will easily become discouraged and lose hope for living if there is no love in your life.

A life that is devoid of love barely has any laughter. Yet laughter is great at enhancing the quality of life and hence making it longer. This is why it is known that ‘laughter is the best medicine.’ It naturally follows that love is the best medicine as well, as it is difficult to have heartfelt laughter without love.

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He Likes You - Constant Presence

Not all guys are the same just as no two girls are the same. However, there are some variables shared by most men when they like another person. If you want a real scope of the situation, here are some clues that he likes you.

1) Constant Presence

If you have a meeting at conference room A, he’ll most likely take the seat nearest you or across you. If the clock says it’s time to eat, he’ll probably join you and your friends for lunch, or invite you out to eat.

A guy will always try his best to come up with reasons to be by your side. It’s very flattering, isn’t it? However, if you don’t find yourself liking the guy back, don’t say “yes” to every invitation; and certainly don’t agree to go out if it’s just the two of you.

2) Any Day Presents

There is no such thing as a meaningless present. And quite frankly, any day presents are those which have the most meaning.

When a guy gives you something and tells you that he saw it in a shop and just thought of you, it definitely means something. No matter how small or seemingly insignificant his gift is, it is one of the clues that he likes you.

3) Meaningful Eyes Sometimes, guys opt to express their feelings through their eyes. This happens when they don’t know how to actually say what they feel, and yet they can’t help but be overcome with em

otion.

It could be the way his eyes twinkle when he’s with you, or the way his eyes seem to linger on you even when the conversation is over.

Now that you know the clues that he likes you, you can solve this mystery on your own.

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Communication In Romance

Romance. Romancing is not a science, but an art. When you talk to your beloved, you talk not only with your words, but with your eyes and your body language. Everything takes part in communication with your sweetheart.
How does one talk to one's beloved? Most of the lovers swoon at the sight of their beloved. How do we expect them to talk? But their sweetheart wants to talk and they want to talk. They both want to share everything in each other's life. They share their dreams, they share their agonies and pains and they share their goals and failures. They share everything, because they are two bodies, but one heart. Romance has its own flavor, a different flavor. Romance is a different emotion compared to all other emotions. It's much different compared to emotions such as anger etc. They are all negative, but romance is a positive emotion or feeling. In romance, one ignores every fault of his/her sweetheart and only finds everything good and glorifies it. In love, the afternoon sun is as beautiful as the sunset. Such is the wonder of romance that it changes a person totally.

Coming back to communication, how does one do it in romance? Does one convey love every single day? Does one talk only of love and nothing else. Otherwise it may kill the romantic mood! Does one only dream of good things and avoid every talk of anything negative? What and how does one communicate while romancing? Yes, it is true that most of the romantic lovers talk only of positive things and avoid everything negative. It is also true that talk is mostly about love, because they are romancing. Isn't it? It is true that the couples dream of great things and avoid contemplating any negatives

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Emotional Affair Or Friendship

In a marriage, what are the limits for friendship with a member of the opposite sex? Who sets these limits? What is the difference between a friendship and an emotional affair? Is an emotional affair wrong? Does an emotional affair help the marriage by letting a partner vent out all emotional frustration, which otherwise he/she would not have done with his/her spouse? Or does it kill the marriage?
What is an emotional affair? Most of us have friendships. Many of us are very close in some friendships. We share quite a lot in such friendships. But when one develops such a close friendship with one from the opposite sex, it can be termed as an emotional affair. Sharing intimate emotional details with someone of opposite sex is called an emotional affair. This the the common definition. It also includes the clause that you are keeping your partner unaware about the emotional bond you share with someone else. Does it hurt marriage? It hurts marriage if after knowing about the details shared, the spouse feels that mutual trust was violated. If the emotional affair becomes strong, it may so happen that one may begin sharing more emotional details with one's friend than with one's spouse. That hurts the spouse and may also lead to a break-up.
Why do people have emotional affair? It is being debated that emotional affair is purely emotional or it is begun because of physical attraction. Does one need a friend of opposite sex to share emotional details? Why not one of your own sex? And why does one feel uncomfortable with one's spouse about this bond? All pointers go in one direction - an emotional affair may be the way one wants to begin a physical relationship with another outside marriage. Otherwise if one want to have emotional sharing, or to vent out feelings, one can easily consult a psychiatrist and tell all to feel relieved and get advice. Or one can chose a friend of the same sex.
How to avoid an emotional affair? One who is involved in an emotional affair needs to ask ownself- is this only emotional? Why do I need this person to talk about everything? One must reflect. Talk it out with one's spouse. Let your head control your heart for a moment and think about the marriage and the bond.

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Free Flirting Tips - Body Language For Men

Flirting body language is an important part of understanding the way a woman is feeling for you and it is also a way to show how much you like that special someone. There are many flirting body language tips for men that you MUST know. These tips will help you land the next woman of your dreams. Below are flirting body language tips for men:
1. Have Physical Contact with Your New Woman
One of the most important aspects of flirting is to be able to have physical contact with your new woman and have her enjoy it and want to do it back. Holding a woman's hand is one of the best ways to have physical contact. This is an excellent use of body language to show to your new woman that you really like her. If she is willing to hold your hand back, you definitely know she is interested in you also.


2. Make Her Laugh
Another important flirting body language technique and tip for men is to make the woman laugh as the last impression. Women love guys that can make them laugh and if you can make your new woman laugh, she will be keeping you for a very very long time. Laughter is an important part of any relationship and woman truly appreciate a guy that can make her laugh. It is one of the simplest flirting body language techniques, yet one of the most effective.
3. Text Messages
One of the best flirting mechanisms in today's society is being able to flirt via a text message. Text messaging is one of the best ways to flirt with women and the great part about text messaging is that you have plenty of time to come up with the perfect text message to say to that specific girl. You have plenty of time to think about what to say to make your woman smile. If you can get her smiling in a text message, you can get her smiling in person.
Again, flirting body language is an important way to show that special girl that you really care about them and like them. Using the right techniques is extremely important because using the wrong ones can turn your future girlfriend/wife away and cause you to lose them forever. Getting the woman you like to smile is one of the most important factors to any healthy relationship. If you can leave for the evening after the date with your new woman smiling, she is definitely going to want to go out on a second date with you. Remember, be yourself also. Don't try to be someone your not and if things get serious you are going to have to act like that the ENTIRE relationship. Your new woman might like the FAKE you and not the true you. It is best to be honest at all times while trying to keep a smile on your woman's face. I wish you the best of luck and I hope you have enjoyed this article!

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Is Jealousy Destroying Your Relationship?

Jealousy is a common problem that couples present when they go to counseling. When one partner chooses jealous behaviors, the dynamics of the relationship change. They are no longer a couple in an Adult Relationship.
Now they are caught in a cycle of Investigator and Suspect. The Investigator spends an enormous amount of energy checking up on the Suspect, who may or may not be doing anything reprehensible. The Suspect spends time defending and explaining his/her behaviors. They are locked in a pattern which will destroy their relationship and they usually don’t what to do.
Both partners are miserable playing this game. The game is all about Control. "If I don’t check up on her, she'll make me look stupid" or "He'll make a fool of me." People who choose jealous behaviors may not realize that their behavior looks pretty silly or even crazy. Their partner didn't "make" them look stupid.

I was actually told by several women that "all men cheat." If this is your belief, you are probably an Investigator. Problem is: you have to sleep sometime. You can’t chain yourself to your partner. You have decided that you alone are capable of controlling your partner’s behavior. What’s more, you've decided it's your Job as his partner to keep him from cheating on you.
What a way to live your life, spending your time spying on each other! Trust is a decision. It’s not based on how the other person acts. If you choose to stay with a partner who is not trustworthy, you are doing so with your eyes open. If you are choosing jealousy without cause, you are doing so to control your partner.
The very things you do to control your partner are the things that will drive your partner away. Are you ready to try something different?
Keep in mind that jealous behavior is a choice you are making. It starts with your thoughts: I wonder where he is. She’s probably with someone right now. Why didn't he call me when he said he would? Why is she wearing that dress? Who was that woman who called him?
These thoughts lead to your behaviors, such as calling excessively (read, more than twice during work hours), listening in on phone conversations, checking phone lists and emails, interrogating your partner, and many other destructive behaviors.
You begin to feel awful after imagining all of the things your partner is doing (these are thoughts; you can change them). You can also change your behaviors if you choose to. If jealously is destroying your relationship, there is hope if you are willing to do the work.
First, if you're with someone who is trustworthy, you can change the thoughts that are plaguing you. Whenever you get those thoughts that start your heart racing, ask yourself the following questions:
What evidence is there that my thought is true?What evidence is there that my thought is false?What would someone else say about this thought?What other explanation could there be?
After you answer these questions, decide what new course of action you will take based on this exercise. Repeat this as often as needed. Hopefully, you will soon find yourself feeling calmer and less ready to play the Investigator and Suspect game.

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Transforming Our Relationships By Loving Ourselves

How can we transform our relationships--making them closer, more intimate, more creative, more satisfying?
I've seen that happen in my own life. And the change came, not from working on the relationships, but from loving myself.
What's made the difference: love for myself, comfort with who I am, the feeling of being on my own path, and knowing what I feel and what I want.
When I love myself, I still enjoy and want love from the other person, but I don't feel desperate for it, like I'd disappear if I didn't get it. I don't feel like I'd do anything, even try to be someone I'm not, just to be loved.

When I feel comfort with who I am, I can feel right away if I'm still comfortable when I'm with this other person. I can judge a potential partner not by looks or achievements, but by whether I feel even more myself when I am with him.
When I have the feeling of being on my own path, satisfied with and excited by what I am doing in my life, I'm not going to be jealous of my partner's accomplishments or needing him to be smaller so I don't get too anxious. Nor will I need him to accomplish more so I can ride along on the accomplishment wagon.
When I know what I feel and what I want, then I can communicate my desires -- and be open to hearing what my partner wants as well. When I know what I want and I trust that, I don't end up resenting the other person because I haven't said what I needed and they didn't read my mind.
Perhaps the biggest gift I've received in the relationship area was the certainty that grew in me after many years of inner work, that the other person's feelings belong to them.
Growing up in an alcoholic/codependent family, I soaked up the idea that when Dad was depressed, it was the job of all the rest of us to handle his feelings for him. My mother didn't show her feelings at all, so I had her feelings for her too.
When I started getting into relationships, it was nearly automatic to believe my partner's fears and angers were my fault and my responsibility. In the resulting tangle, no wonder it was hard to feel myself.
I even thought that's what "love" meant!
Many years of inner work using a process called Focusing have shifted all this for me. I can sit with my partner when he's upset, but it doesn't become my upset. It belongs to him. When my nephew is in tears over his own relationship woes, I am there... but I don't offer advice unless he asks, because that's his feeling, not mine.
The space I have for connecting with others is much bigger now, because I am myself, not all the people around me. It feels great!

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Free Tips to Make Your Boyfriend Commit

If you are dating an emotionally unavailable man, you are probably wondering if it is at all possible to make him commit to a relationship with you. Emotionally unavailable man is someone who for some reason is dead set on never committing to anybody. While there are men who are outright players, there are also good honest men who have been burned in the past and are gun shy of commitment. Taming a player is one thing. Making an emotionally unavailable man commit is different.
One of my best friends is forty something year old divorced man. He has two great teenage kids, great friends and otherwise fantastic life. He has got everything he needs, great job, lots of money, and a variety of interests and social circles. Since his divorce six years ago he never wanted to commit to anybody. He had always swore he would never get married again.
He was dating on match.com and other internet dating sites, meeting a variety of women, going out on dates, socializing and once in a while taking a woman home after a date. He has had some sporadic short term relationships, but nothing serious.
Recently I ran into him after not seeing him for some time. I remembered talking to my friend a while ago when he told me he had started seeing someone. Naturally, when I bumped into him recently I asked whether he was still seeing the same woman. Guess what, he told me she had moved in and they were planning to get married.
So, what made a man who was a commitment phobic commit to one woman? The answer is easy. She was a special woman. She wasn't like anyone else he had dated before. To understand the psychological profile of a commitment phobic, check out my post Commitment Phobic Man

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Zodiac Love Match

The study of love compatibility reveals our hidden desires and unexplored secret realms. The astrology love compatibility between two people can be divined from a careful comparison between a couple’s astrological sun signs. We are all born under the powerful influences of the sun, moon and the planets of the cosmos. Think of your birth as a frozen moment in time of the Universe. Our spiritual, inner being is created at that precise temporal alignment of the skies. Our zodiac love compatibility is forever cast.

The placement of the sun, the rising planets and moon phase mark us all with our distinct characteristics. Our Horoscope signs have a huge impact on our astrology love compatibility with our lovers, mates and potential love interests. Our relationship horoscopes can guide us to that special someone who can tap into our erotic depths. Try an online, love compatibility test to begin your quest for insight into your relationships.
Astrology Love Compatibility: Find Romance
We all yearn for romance, love and affection. When we realize something is missing in our love relationships, we may turn to love astrology for the answers. Insight into the astrology love compatibility with our partners can help us forge a new, romantic connection. Once we understand our lover’s inner needs and motivations through our romance horoscope, we can love with a new understanding and awareness.
Understanding and accepting the personality traits of our lover can lead to a new found spirituality, which translates into romance and sexual attraction. The zodiac love compatibility between two lovers is a powerful covenant of desire and romance elevated to an ephemeral bonding, like no other. Mary understands the importance of astrology love compatibility and it's role in all relationships. You can visit her blog to make use of the free love compatibility calculator.

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A Happy Relationship - It's Your Choice

As with everything in life, there are various schools of thought on how to get what you want in a relationship. Here's one that, if given a chance, works very well. Oprah had a show many years ago where the theme was, "Would you rather be happy or would you rather be right?" You might be asking, "Why can't we be both?" It's possible that you can actually be both happy and right but if that's the case, be grateful for your blessings and fill the rest of us in on how that works. For the most part, we are constantly making choices to manage our relationships, our expectations, and our feelings.
My advice - choose happy! Happiness really is a choice. It's a gift you give yourself that really does keep on giving. And the best part... it's a gift you share with everyone whose path you cross.
Have you ever noticed how yawning is incredibly contagious? If you see someone yawn, hear a yawn over the phone or even hear the word "yawn", what happens? You yawn don't you? You pretty much can't help yourself. (Did you yawn as you read this?) Isn't it the same with smiling? When a stranger smiles at you, don't you reciprocate with a smile? Ditto laughing. Try it and take note of the results.
You may be thinking that yawning, smiling, and laughing are not a big deal but the point here is that the energy you project onto the world is reflected back to you. This works the same way in the microcosmic world of your relationship. You get to create the atmosphere in which your relationship lives.
Getting What You Want
So how do you get what you want in your relationship if you don't get to be right? Simple, you put your partner's needs and desires first. Notice I'm not being gender specific here. This may seem radical and counter-intuitive but think about it for a moment. If both of you are putting the other's needs first, you both get what you want, not by taking but by giving. Maybe not in every given moment or circumstance - that's where compromise comes in - but rather, in the over all scheme of things.
Here's how it works. It's Sunday afternoon, you want to watch football but your partner wants to go to the new blockbuster movie that just opened. Instead of escalating to an argument over who always gets their way, try understanding your partner's wishes. If each of you wants the other to be happy you can see several options to the problem.
You record the football game, go to the movie and watch the game when you get home. (Make sure you isolate yourself from friends and the media until you've had a chance to watch the recording)
You watch the football game and go to a later movie.
You watch football and go out for a nice dinner and plan a special midweek date to the movie.
You watch the football game and your partner goes to the movie with friends.
You go to the movie and read the highlights of the game on the Internet when you get home but you will get to watch football all next weekend with no distractions.
You can probably think of some other options as well. The point is, if you are truly putting each other's happiness first, you will want to reach a compromise that works for both of you.
Again, you may not get what you want in every situation, but what you will get is a happy, healthy, and loving long-term relationship.
And since happiness in contagious, when the one you love is happy, you will be happy in return.
Ann Carol Cook

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Love - Troubled Relationships

When you are the only one who has to forgive, understand, wait and be an angel with the person you love, while they are always sick, tired, full of problems, depression and nervousness, this is a troubled relationship that can only make you suffer.
If you have that kind of relationship, you are not the only one. Many people accept troubled relationships because they love the other person and they cannot think logically and realise that their relationship is in fact killing them.
If you keep giving excuses and trying to justify the other person's mistakes, then you are masochist: you want to suffer. Your attitude is a real suicide.
You have to face the truth and stay far away from people that only take advantage of your goodness, love and dedication. A relationship where only one person gives and the other one only gets, is not balanced, and cannot last for too long, since some day, after suffering very much, you'll stop loving the other person and start only hating them.
If you see that the other person has too many defects and they don't do anything to correct them, think about how your life with them will be. Are you ever going to be happy this way?
Perhaps you are waiting for a magical solution...
Of course you are, because you are in love... However, be realistic! Don't try to make excuses for their faults, but pay attention to their mistakes.
You are not going to live only with their kisses. You'll have to bear their selfish personality for life... Think about that.
If you stick with this relationship, time will pass, you'll only feel worse with this situation, and in the end you'll realise that you lost the best years of your life with the wrong person.
Why? Are you so blind? Are you so weak?
If you see that a relationship is only provoking you problems and making you sick, be wise and put an end to your martyrdom while you can. Later things may become too complicated, if you get too involved with the wrong person.
Be careful, because besides suffering, you are also in danger of losing your mental stability for being a victim of a selfish creature that will only ruin your life.
After big deceptions and hate, come craziness and despair.
Stay far away from this tragic end! Be wise and learn how to look for the right person for you.
You need someone who will make you happy and who will really love you very much.
Otherwise, why should you have a companion?
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The Elements of Compatibility

When relationships between two nice people don't end up the way everyone had hoped, the blame is often directed at incompatibility. After all, the relationship didn't end all that badly, so it doesn't mean either of them was a jerk. They were simply incompatible – they don't dance to the same tune.
But when you think about it, does “compatibility” really have a fixed definition? Is it judged by how well they spend time together? Perhaps it's how cute they look together? Whatever it is, since so many breakups happening because of “incompatibility,” it might be a good idea to explore what compatibility really is, instead of just dismissing it as a salad of traits that a man and a woman have in common.
In reality, compatibility is much more complicated than you might think. Some elements of compatibility exist at an unconscious level and you might not even know about them. For example, have you ever heard of the saying that most individuals are more attracted to mates who display the qualities of their parent of the opposite sex? You may have noticed that you're more attracted to guys who look, sound, or act like your dad. It may sound funny, but it's actually been proven that people prefer mates that make them feel perfectly safe and at ease – something they used to feel with their parents! This fact, among many others, proves that there's much more to compatibility than what meets the eye, so to speak.
So, is it possible to use compatibility to your advantage in the dating game?
To keep it short, compatibility is composed of four essential aspects that, when used completely and harmoniously with each other, can increase your chances of getting into a healthy, long-lasting relationship with someone you're perfectly comfortable with – and vice versa. These traits are the following:
The Way You Talk
Conversation has a very powerful attracting mechanism, but remember that not all people in the dating game mean what they say. I'm sure you've experienced having to tell a white lie to your date one time or the other. Well, that's something you should avoid. A great talking style is marked by having totally nothing to hide from each other. Read: Brutal honesty.
Your Activity Levels
Whenever you feel bored, tired, or otherwise uneasy when you and your boyfriend do something together, it's a sign that your activity levels aren't on the same page. In other words, you're incompatible on an activity level. A good relationship should thrive on the time you spend together. Try to be more open to each other's reality, but make sure no one tries to impose their “reality” on the other, either.
Financial Smarts
There's a reason why so many couples break up over money matters. Your financial intellect (or lack of it) is a very powerful dictating factor on how far a relationship can go, so do yourselves a favor and start reading up about financial security, debt management, and other ways to always have something for a rainy day.
Sensual Response
This draws the line between being friends and lovers. The first three traits can improve any relationship, even if it's not romantic. But the way you respond to each other at a sensual and sexual level is a defining factor in your relationship's health and longevity.
About the Author
Aaron Adams specialises in relationship matters for women.

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